21. LISTS recommended by Mary Pipher, in Rescuing Ophelia: Saving
the Lives of Adolescent Girls (See also her follow up book, The Shelter
of Each Other: Rebuilding Our Families)
1. List: "write down three things every day that
(you) felt proud of" (p. 33, 109).
2. List: daily "record and report ... victories--defined
as times (you) handled frustration in a mature way" (p. 157).
3. List: "develop an emergency plan for those times
when you're tempted to" hurt yourself, and "pull out a notebook
and write [down]... every painful, angry emotion ... to get those emotions
out of (your) body and onto a piece of paper" (p. 164).
4. List: "think about what kind of men [women]
(you) like. What qualities would they have? What would be
their interests? How would they treat (you)? When dating,
pull out the list and "check and recheck: 'Is this person meeting
my criteria ... ?' "
6. List: "Encourage ... diaries/journals ... places
... can clarify, conceptualize and evaluate ... experiences, ... thoughts
and feelings ... where their point of view on the universe matters"
(p.255).
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